January, we bring in the New Year with a set of resolutions we seek
to fulfill, garnering change to better our bodies and lives. We wish
to transform the old us into a more thorough, refine, and fully
realized self that receives and acknowledges the ample blessings a
new year can bring. And the best way to learn true transformation
would be from our transgender brothers and sisters of the LGBT
community. For decades, they along with our gender-bending brethren
have been making people gag from their looks and the way they succeed
in life without allowing society to dictate. To honor and celebrate
this the for the January cover I transformed myself into someone no
one has ever seen me be.
exclusive interview with Janet Mock gives us insight on her journey
from harmonizing her internal and mental identity with that of her
physical appearance. She teaches us about the difference between the
transgender community in Hawaii, the contiguous US, and within major
cities. Her new memoir Redefining Realness, which debuts on February
4th, further discusses her life as a transgender woman of color in
NYC and how she became a successful writer and fell in love with her
Milan describes his life as a transgender man of color—something
that isn’t as sensationalized as his female counterparts. But his
voice has a purpose for all those trans men that feel as though they
don’t have someone telling people about their narrative.
Tomo Jr. analyzes the construct of gender expression among gay men
with ‘When Queens Climb The Back of Trade.’ His account details
his affinity with masculine men and how they are regarded as “proper
tops” while describing it’s disparaging effects on feminine men,
raising the question, “Can queens be tops?”
you’re making your resolutions for the New Year, keep in mind all
of the transformative lessons this issue discusses. You can step out
of the narrow and rigid classifications that define you. So, when you
finally come into your fully realized self and walk out of your door,
be sure to MAKE THEM GAG.
I've Come To Know JAN/FEB 2014
true transformation is not easy, it requires amongst other things a
giving up of who you are in exchange for who you can become. My
journey to becoming this fictitious cunt blonde bombshell for January
cover started months ago with a simple idea.
September 2013, my team brought to my attention an idea of
celebrating the trans community and including it in our January
issue. Along with the idea of transgender people featured and
profiled in DBQ, my team felt I should transform myself on the cover.
During the meeting I could feel that they were suggesting that I get
up in drag to celebrate our transformers. They quickly realized by my
facial expression that I wasn't about that life and that the most I
would do would be to wear a pink shirt and a leopard bandana.
Interestingly enough, weeks later I was still thinking about what I
wanted to do for the January cover. I began to interrogate myself as
to why I was so resistant to the idea of any kind of femininity being
expressed on my cover, especially since I am a huge feminist.
slowly began to see that my resistance to showing femininity on the
cover of my magazine was the same prejudice and discrimination that
many of the straight and LGB (Lesbian, Gay & Bisexual) community
feel towards the transgender community. I saw that my dislike and
rejection was based off of my fear of what people would think and
oddly enough this same fear and rejection towards the trans community
is why they have been pushed to the margins and overlooked.
then made the commitment to myself to transform my look for January,
to embody what it means to be a man that is feminine and fabulous...
to be in-touch with my feminine side. In order to keep that
commitment, I had to give up who I was for who I could become. The
difficult part of this process was surrendering my fear of people not
approving of me. I didn't realize how much the opinions of strangers
really meant to me. I thought I was surely past that stage in my
life; I've always been very clear and confident and have done what
I've wanted to in my life with or without peoples approval, but this
was different. This transformation was out of the box, but in the
words of Kanye West, "I had to get off the boat so I could walk
I shaved my facial hair off, they dyed my hair 3 times to get it that
shade of blonde, I let a stylist drape me in gaudy gold jewelry and
wrap my in a $7,000 full length white mink coat with a white fox
collar. My Indianapolis makeup artist beat my face within an inch of
its life and gave me serious eye lashes for days. I had to get off
the boat, it was the only way I could make the statement I needed too
in order to be in service to the LGBT community.
this transformation is one that was done to make a serious point and
isn't one I have intentions in keeping; the process has changed my
life because it showed me the steps necessary in transforming one's
self. I believe we all have a burning desire deep within to be
better, bigger and brighter. We have a longing to fulfill our
callings and to live with purpose and many of us each year set goal
so that we can be a step closer to fulfilling our destinies.
I've Come To Know... is that we get to decide what we will be in this
life and how proud we will be of it. Many of us can taste the
benefits that come with changing ourselves into that which serves our
highest purpose, but fear keeps us in the boat. In order to walk on
water this year –in order to achieve our highest goals we must be
daringly courageous. Courageous enough to where we keep our
commitments to ourselves first. Daring enough to vogue in the
presence of fear. Daringly courageous is giving up all of our excuses
in exchange for all of our dreams.
you transform yourself so that you can transform your life, you then
become the possible. You live in the realm of miracles and your
capacity for everything is greater than ever before. Anais Nin said,
"Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage",
and that I know for sure.